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Strategies for Managing the Holiday Rush

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It’s that time of year when we spend too much, eat too much, work too much, and do other things too much. Here are some strategies to keep in mind this holiday season:

Start with a Re-Frame

Remind yourself of the meaning of the holiday season.  You will be surprised what this easy re-framing can do to change how you think and feel.

 Stop, Drop and Roll

As children, we are taught to stop, drop and roll if you catch on fire. This same principle can be applied when you when need a “time-out” from the holiday activities. Take the break to stop what you are doing, drop yourself on comfy couch and roll with the moment of doing nothing.

Stay clear of the “Debbie-Downers”

Expect a few “Grinchs” to cast out that Bah-hum-bug spirit. Extend them some kindness because they may need it.

“I love my family, but…”

 You are born into this group of people and regardless of how you might feel about “that” cousin or the “peculiar” in-law, they are your family. Pick your battles during the holiday season when it comes to family.

Get Outside!

Let the sunshine in. This is a natural way of getting some serotonin working its happy magic. It’s wouldn’t hurt if you added some walking. Just keep it simple.

 Define Your Village

Consider expanding your festivities with different types of mini celebrations. For example, meeting for brunch during the holiday week with extended family, workplace potlucks and gift exchanges. For those that are working during the holidays, bring them a meal—this can go a long way.

Prioritize the In-Box

You got too much coming at you? Try this neat technique to help you sort through those demands. Start with a list and make four columns. Column “A” are things you must do before the end of the day. Column “B” are things that need to be done in a few days. Column “C” need to be taken care of by end of the week. Column “D” are those things that can wait for after the holidays.

Less, really is best.

There is nothing wrong with keeping it the holiday celebrations low-keyed. The decreased stimulation of the hustle and bustle might be exactly what you need.

Holiday Blues

The holiday season is sometimes the season of loneliness, sadness and heart ache for many people. If you have the holiday blues, know it’s okay to feel the way you do. People who know you will be tuned into what you are experiencing. Professional support from mental health professionals is always an option. You can dial “988” from your cell phone to access the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (24-hours a day/7-days a week) or go to your nearest Hospitals’ Emergency Department.

Here are some other mental health emergency contacts available 24 hours a day/7 days a week:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
  • Norfolk CSB Emergency Services and Crisis Hotline: 757-664-7690
  • Virginia Beach Psychiatric Center Crisis Hotline: 757-627-LIFE (757-627-5433)

Agatha Parks-Savage has long dark hair, is wearing a black shirt and smiles at the camera

 

Agatha Parks-Savage, EdD, LPC, RN, is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Professor of Family and Community Medicine and Associate Dean and Associate Designated Institutional Official of Graduate Medical Education. She is also a Certified Executive, Physician & Life Coach and Certified Trainer, Crucial Conversations® for Mastering Dialogue.